I was always told that you should marry your best friend, but I don't think I quite understood that when I first got married. To me, a best friend was someone you had fun with, could be around all of the time, and had a lot of things in common with; they were that one person that understood you. Those are great qualities in a best friend, for sure. My reason for calling my husband my best friend is so much more than that.
When we first got married, we dealt with a lot of serious issues. I was a "religious" lost person; someone who believes they are a Christian but has never humbled their hearts before God. I was hard to handle, let's just put it that way. My guy still loved me, though.
We started off with a very argumentative relationship. We both have stubborn "my way or the highway" personalities. I believe in submission now, but at the time I just told him that a submissive wife was an oppressed wife. I wanted to make all of the decisions. I wanted things to go my way. I wanted to argue every little detail; especially when it had to do with God or church. (I was a spoiled 18 year old girl who thought she had it all figured out - what would you expect?!)
I was difficult, that's for sure. & Any guy in his right mind would say - Wow, I just married a psycho. I'm sure the thought crossed Josh's mind once or twice. Maybe he even thought he made a mistake. I know that he knew he had sinned, because the Bible speaks very clearly about being unequally yoked. Joshua was surely dealing with the consequence of that.
He loved me, though. He loved be in spite of every imperfection I had. He loved me the way God commands the man to in Ephesians 6, where he talks about the man and woman's roles in marriage.
He loved me.
And by doing so, he was able to show me God's love.
He waited on the Lord when I told him I'd rather keep drinking alcohol than stop when he took a stand and said he wasn't going to have it in our family. He kept going to church even when I said I thought they were a bunch of loons. Although he fell into sin and at one point found himself influenced by me, he got back up and started standing on the Truth - even if I threw a fit. He stood up to me and had no problem telling me I wasn't so tough. He had a broken heart for my spiritual condition. He prayed for my salvation.
He was there beside me when I accepted Christ.
I have also grown up with Josh. We were both very young when we got married. I was 18 and he was 21. Phew! But we have grown up together. We obviously still have a lot of growing up to do, but it's so neat to see how we have changed and progressed over this little bit of time. I love that.
I have had a few best friends in my life and I loved them very much. However, no one has been there for me the way Joshua has. Other than Jesus, who promises to never leave or forsake me, my husband has always been right there. He has been willing to love to beautiful along with the completely hideous. He has loved me the way Jesus does.
So, I did end up marrying my best friend; a wonderful man of God.
Thank God for that.